You may feel misunderstood and unappreciated. You are not happy in your relationship, but you want and value your relationship. You just can’t work out how to communicate or patch it up. You’ve reached stalemate.
If you’re on the verge of leaving or you feel trapped and constantly fantasise about leaving or your partner leaving but this isn’t really what you want. Stop and get help.
Discussing the situation with a professional can provide enough distance for you to gain clarity and bring solutions that you have support to create either together as a couple or on your own. You cannot set out to change someone in order to make it work for you. Relationships are about give and take. If you are both prepared to undergo some change in the way that you relate, then you are ready for the type of intervention that therapy can offer. Coming individually and also as a couple can be a helpful.
If you are in a place where you don’t know what outcome you want then come and talk about it. If you are feeling completely stuck, then an individual session may help to clarify things.
EFT, Havening Techniques, EMDR and Hypnotherapy
Patterned behaviour and negative mindsets can be changed through the use of Hypnotherapy, Havening Techniques, EFT and EMDR. You need to feel ready to change and to be prepared to do the work as there’s no quick fix in one session. Solutions can mean a whole new life as a couple together or an amicable road to starting new independent lives. You probably have a hunch about the direction in which you are headed. If things are just functioning, it could be a lot better for you both and new life could be brought to your relationship now. If it's the culmination of many years, you may need help to see how to go forward and to work through blocks both individually and together in sessions. If it's more useful to you to come in and discuss it alone, this is fine too. LGBTQ couples are welcomed in my practice.
The main thing is to start, don't put it off as life is pressured enough that it's easy to shelf your own needs, and by ignoring it, things usually only get worse. If you want your relationship then put the work in with support and guidance. If you want to just chat and do some release work to seek more positivity, then please get in touch to make an appointment.
If you are heart-broken and just out of a relationship, psycho-sensory techniques such as EFT, EMDR and Havening Techniques are incredibly effective at releasing grief and sadness, allowing you to reconstruct and build on the positives. These techniques combined with Hypnotherapy will speed up the process and allow you to start afresh in much quicker time than you would imagine.
Keeping one’s self esteem intact and knowing your own value is hugely challenging and vital under these circumstances. We are sometimes not equipped with the life skills to cope with Heartbreak. In many ways it is like a death and this is something we are not taught to cope with and it can feel like your whole world has collapsed.
Just know that as one door closes, another opens and it is my job to help facilitate this. Often without realising it you find yourself remembering past hurts and heart-breaks, even moments that you felt unloved or blanked for no good reason at all, at school or as a child. These feelings can rear their heads at the end of a relationship and it's a great time to process and release them permanently allowing you to thrive in the future.