Does any of this sound familiar? |
Reasons why you may lack confidence: |
You may have had negative experiences with interviews or public speaking in the past and not be able to present yourself as the best version of you that you can. You may feel awkward in social situations, unable to speak even though you know that you have to say is good. If you do speak up, it’s not a great experience as you feel worried and tongue-tied. Exam stress or interview nerves stop you from performing as you know you could if only you could stay calm.
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For example, if you were brought up with critical parents or have lived with a critical partner for years, it can infiltrate how you feel about yourself on a deep subconscious level.
The result can be feeling small, lacking in confidence and socially awkward. If, on the other hand, your parents or partners have been emotionally unavailable or preoccupied, because you feel unacknowledged, you start to feel unworthy and unimportant, even apologetic towards the person/s involved. You may no longer be in that situation but you are still left with the feeling of lack within yourself. Trauma may be at the core of low self esteem. You may see yourself as less than others or shameful because of physical, emotional or sexual abuse. Even though it was clearly not your fault, you may have felt to blame. This can lead to a feeling of not being good enough. Many people suffer from never feeling right in terms of their own body image. We are bombarded constantly with air-brushed images of people with perfect bodies and we compare ourselves with people in magazines and feel bad about ourselves. This is another source of people feeling a lack of some kind within themselves resulting in low self esteem and low mood. Whatever the background is to your feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence, there are ways of releasing the pattern of programming that you have built up over the years. When you are accustomed to each new negative experience endorsing your concept about yourself, the patterning can only get worse. It’s not too late to halt the process and start changing the way that you feel about yourself and look to improving your life and your possibilities for the future. Get in touch for a chat or email me to arrange an appointment. Christina Perritt m. 07764574876 christinaperritt9@gmail.com |